Build Human Connection and Rapport

 

In the first step of the Progressive Cycle, we introduce the Respect & Safety Stage. Here is where you start to build Human Connection and Rapport with others.

Respect and Safety are fundamental to conversations and create the first level of comfort and openness.  At this point, you will find that people start to share what’s truly important, the stuff that makes a difference.

I want to encourage you this week to generate that space of Safety & Respect in all your interactions and let me know how it turns out.

Connect to Your Needs

Give yourself a reason to listen: What needs of yours are met by listening?

Connect to Your Feeling

What is it going to feel like when you meet your needs for listening? 
Here is where most people get lost - (Call me to clarify)

WIIFM

What's In It For Me?
Do it for yourself, so you win, and
then take that win to others so they win as well.

Here's to your ongoing success - Martin

Continue Reading...

I was 17 when I decided to get serious about my life

 

When I decided to get serious about my life the first time I was 17, I had just graduated from High School and by some amazing miracle I got accepted to go to SDSU

The big leagues

I was so proud of myself. I knew exactly what I was going to do. I loved music and people, so I made the choice to pursue music as a dream and psychology as a backup.

I remember registration day.
There was a table outside and lots of eager kids just like me ready to take on their next step in life. I had all my paperwork filled out, I did have questions but I felt confident I could get help.

I was next in line. I stepped up to the person handed them my packet and smiled as I waited instructions, she said “Your Money” I looked surprised and got real confused. What money I asked. Tuition, she said with a smile. I said “I thought school is free”, turns out I was wrong.

I was confused and maybe a little embarrassed but still very happy and excited.

That afternoon I remember telling my...

Continue Reading...

Locked-In & Focused

 

Last night I had a dream, I was at a party and someone took my phone to play music. They couldn’t get music to play and after a few seconds I grabbed the phone back and tried to fix the problem. But just like they said the screen was locked. Everybody was looking at me but I didn’t panic. I was getting frustrated. I hit the round iPhone button but nothing happened. So, I swiped up, then I swiped sideways, I hit the butting on the top side to shut down the phone - but nothing still. The problem was easy to see, the screen was locked!!!

Then I noticed there were a lot of extra buttons on my phone

I noticed it was longer and skinnier than my phone

Then.....

I noticed it was a TV Remote

Have you ever been locked in so focused on something you shut out other possibilities and fail to see the obvious!?

Swiping Up, Swiping sideways, Trying to reset “your” idea? Maybe trying to get people to see it your way. Have you tried to get people to...

Continue Reading...
Close

50% Complete

Two Step

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore et dolore magna aliqua.