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So often people focus on the negative parts of their lives.
I have done that for years so I have a couple things to say about it.
That way of living has taken it toll on me in so many ways.
I've had to Reframe the way I was experiencing and looking at the world so I can get what I'm committed to.
In this show Dylan Stewart and I are going to DEEP DIVE into this topic, watch and see where we go.
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I started the interview with the title "Empathy - The Gift of Love."
That conversation did not happen. We did have a few thoughts but for the most part we we got away a from that topic a few times.
I thought about Stopping the conversation several times but I was curious where we could end up so I kept going.
This conversation got interesting and is packed with content, I hope you enjoy and benefit.
One morning I woke up at 4:15 curious why I disconnect from reality and responsibility.
Why I don’t address simple issues in my life.
I got calmly curious and asked myself: How come I keep avoiding simple, doable tasks in my life?
Through meditation I saw the pain I experienced as a result of a painful. Relationship when I was younger and how I linked and stacked experiences after that to create false belief patterns. I saw where I enforced a negative outcome and insured that outcome by avoiding the very simple tasks and needs of my business and relationships to guarantee failure. I was re-attracting the pain from my childhood. I saw by avoiding simple actions in my life I created and insured the feeling of disappointment and sadness.
It got so bad that a few years ago I started to think I was losing my ability to think critically and I started to give up on that too, again guaranteeing my failure, disappointment and sadness.
Through Meditation and Gratitude Journaling I can...
A few months ago I was at an open house and a gentleman named Mike walk in and fell in love with the house. He looked around for about 10 minutes and then said “This is a terrible time to buy a house”
The real estate agent said to him, “There’s no better time to buy than now!” The man Michael rolled his eyes and laughed, You agents always say that! All you think about is the sale!
I took a breath and asked Mike a question. Mike, I’m curious why is it a terrible time to buy a house? He looked me straight in the eye and said “I’m going to have to sell my house to buy this one and I don’t know if the sellers will wait!
When the agent assumed what mike meant she missed the mark and caused Mike to react with an attack.
When I paused and asked a question (Curiously Investigating) to gain clarity mike paused too, and gave us everything we needed to know and told us exactly what the problem he wanted to have solved.
I just had a call from a sales person and he said something I did not understand.
Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and what they said didn’t make any sense? And you think to yourself, “this guy needs sales training”, he needs “sales training techniques” and he needs them now!
Well I want to suggest to you, in the sales industry and in life this happens every day. And sales people miss it!
We miss it because we don’t have a way to get feedback in real time for lost sales opportunities.
The curiosity is a method to dance in conversation in real time and see whats happening as it unfolds.
What would your life look like if you could dance in conversations and get what you need as well as serve those you interact with in the moment versus replay the mistakes later and loose the opportunities, and then kick yourself because the answer was so easy, you just missed it.
We have a solution..
The Curiosity Theory
Ryan Gravador of That's Gravy Designs said The Curiosity Theory was an eye opening experience. A large part of my business is sales and through The Curiosity Theory I realized that a curious nature allows us break down barriers and conflict.
When I decided to get serious about my life the first time I was 17, I had just graduated from High School and by some amazing miracle I got accepted to go to SDSU
The big leagues
I was so proud of myself. I knew exactly what I was going to do. I loved music and people, so I made the choice to pursue music as a dream and psychology as a backup.
I remember registration day.
There was a table outside and lots of eager kids just like me ready to take on their next step in life. I had all my paperwork filled out, I did have questions but I felt confident I could get help.
I was next in line. I stepped up to the person handed them my packet and smiled as I waited instructions, she said “Your Money” I looked surprised and got real confused. What money I asked. Tuition, she said with a smile. I said “I thought school is free”, turns out I was wrong.
I was confused and maybe a little embarrassed but still very happy and excited.
That afternoon I remember telling my...
Last night I had a dream, I was at a party and someone took my phone to play music. They couldn’t get music to play and after a few seconds I grabbed the phone back and tried to fix the problem. But just like they said the screen was locked. Everybody was looking at me but I didn’t panic. I was getting frustrated. I hit the round iPhone button but nothing happened. So, I swiped up, then I swiped sideways, I hit the butting on the top side to shut down the phone - but nothing still. The problem was easy to see, the screen was locked!!!
Then I noticed there were a lot of extra buttons on my phone
I noticed it was longer and skinnier than my phone
I noticed it was a TV Remote
Have you ever been locked in so focused on something you shut out other possibilities and fail to see the obvious!?
Swiping Up, Swiping sideways, Trying to reset “your” idea? Maybe trying to get people to see it your way. Have you tried to get people to...
Loren has authored featured articles within many national publications, most recently being featured in both Foster Focus and Adoption Today magazines.
Loren also authors a monthly motivational column geared to motivate and inspire entrepreneurs for MoneyInc.com.
“How To Get Speaking Gigs Fast!”, was Loren’s first book which quickly became an Amazon #1 best seller.
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Loren publishes his blog weekly and believes that sharing his experiences, insights, and personal truths through writing as well as speaking, is the greatest joy his life has ever experienced.
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